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Delayed marriages, better matches lead to lower divorce rate

It seems almost hammered into us: the divorce rate is 50 percent. Half of all marriages end in divorce. One out of every two marriages will fail. It is said with such regularity that most of us don't even bother to challenge that notion anymore.

But according to a new report, we should be thinking more critically about marriage and divorce. If we looked closer at the statistics around those two institutions, we would likely find that the divorce rate has been falling in recent decades, especially among younger people.

Can you compel child support payments by refusing visitation?

One of the most difficult lessons for recently divorced people to learn is this: just because something is ordered in the divorce decree or settlement does not mean that it will happen. For example, just because the Columbus family law judge has ordered your spouse to pay $500 per month in child support per month does not mean that he or she will make those payments in full, on time, every month. And unfortunately, there may be little you can do about it, short of going back to court and seeking enforcement of that decree.

In this situation, it may be tempting to simply refuse to comply with another part of the divorce decree - parenting time, for example - in order to force your former spouse's compliance with the child support order. But that may not be a good idea, and this is why.

Could your wedding foreshadow your eventual divorce?

If you have planned a wedding, you are likely aware of the stress and pressure involved in the planning process and the strain it can put on a relationship during, ironically, the time when you are supposed to be celebrating that relationship.

Certainly, a wedding is a wonderful celebration of a marriage and a future, and it can set the stage for a very long and happy life together. But according to divorce author Marsha Temlock, a tumultuous wedding planning process may be a sign that a future divorce is imminent and unavoidable.

Divorce auctions can make property division quick and easy

On our Columbus family law blog, we spend a great deal of time talking about the most contentious of divorces, when spouses are unable to reach an agreement about anything, including child custody, child and spousal support, property division and other issues relating to finances. While these contested divorces certainly happen, they are in the minority. In most cases, both spouses want to get through the divorce process quickly and with little unnecessary stress and cost.

For those latter couples, one new entrepreneurial business may help them achieve this goal. Divorce auctions are reportedly becoming more popular when neither spouse wants to keep the furniture, household goods and personal belongings, as well as among couples who are unable to decide how to divide up those items.

Divorce in Columbus: breaking the news to the kids

For parents, one of the most stressful, complicated and emotionally charged parts of a divorce is often the conversation in which they tell their children that they have decided to divorce. It can be difficult to know how to approach this talk, and equally (if not more) challenging to help your children adjust to their new life as a child with divorced parents.

Although what works for each child varies significantly from family to family, there are a few universal guidelines of what not to do when breaking the news of your divorce to your children.

Minimize the financial impact of your Ohio divorce

If you have gone through or simply started the divorce process in Ohio, you are probably aware of the financial burden that is inherent in such a split. Not only must you stretch your family income to pay for two households instead of one, but you must also find the money to pay for the legal divorce process, including court costs and fees for attorneys and other family law experts.

Although those costs can seem daunting, it is possible to make it through a divorce while still maintaining your financial stability and protecting your financial future. Here are a few tips on how to do that from Brendan Lyle, the CEO of a divorce finance company which lends money to divorcing spouses while they go through the divorce process.

Will 'speed divorcing' be the next Ohio divorce trend?

Although divorce has been around for many, many years, it seems that there is always some new 'trend' in the world of divorce and family law. Now, one divorce professional is attempting to make 'speed divorcing' the next big trend. Do you think it will catch on in Columbus?

Speed divorcing is much like speed dating, where you have 15 minutes to talk to each date before the buzzer rings and you must move on to the next. Except instead of meeting potential suitors, you are meeting family law attorneys, financial advisors, mortgage brokers, therapists, mediators and other divorce professionals who want to help you navigate your split.

Messy divorce sheds light on gay-marriage debate

It seems that any attention is good attention these days in the media. While the same-sex marriage debate continues in Ohio and nationwide, focusing on divorce may help to bring awareness to the issue. Now a bitter break-up between Melissa Etheridge and Tammy Lynn Etheridge is shedding light on the legal aspects of a same-sex divorce, highlighting the issues faced by heterosexual couples and same-sex couples alike.

Since the split, the public has learned that Tammy believes she is entitled to far more than the $23,000 she was promised to cover expenses and child support. Melissa claimed that Tammy is reckless and burned one of the children with a cigarette. The aggressive battling shows that heterosexual couples do not have a monopoly on messy break-ups.

Ohio custody orders may soon include 'virtual visitation'

As technology has become more advanced and widely available, family courts throughout the country are using those new advances to creatively solve child custody issues. One common example of this is virtual visitation, which has been added to the child custody laws in at least six states. Although it is not yet part of Ohio family law, it will likely not be long before Columbus family court judges are including virtual visitation into family court orders.

Virtual visitation is an easy way for divorced and separated parents to maintain contact with their children when they are not able to see them on a regular basis, such as when they live in a different state. In general, the term encompasses any virtual means of communication between a child and a parent, including email and texting, social networking websites such as Facebook and Google Plus, and video chatting on websites like Skype.

In divorce, it takes two

We've all heard the old sayings. It takes two to tango. Every relationship is a two-way street. It takes two to make a thing go right. And so on, and so on.

With all of this longstanding focus on dual responsibility, why are we so quick to assume that the person who initiated a separation, dissolution or divorce is the person to blame for the split? As most Columbus residents who have been in a long-term relationship are well aware, the responsibility for maintaining and protecting that relationship falls on both people in it, and as such, both must share the blame if it ultimately does not survive.